Diary
Have you seen the movie 27 dresses? In the movie, Jane, the heroin of the movie, has been a bride maid 27 times. She says that she finds herself useful and happy when she helps someone else’s wedding, but most importantly, she likes wedding itself so much.
I, too, like Wedding. It always reminds me of lots of beautiful things such as elegant dresses, fantastic foods, aromatic flowers and the sweet atmosphere of love. So I always liked going to a wedding. (I've never been a bride maid yet though...) Although some people get married several times today, wedding is still regarded the event of a lifetime, which makes wedding more special. Besides, it is such a wonderful social gathering. You may meet so many people from various backgrounds, who have a mutual friend (bride or groom) with you.
Why am I talking about wedding? I went to Seulki’s wedding last Sunday. Seulki is the guy who won the EGC championship in 2003 and taught baduk in
Who would be my husband? Would people gladly come to my wedding? When would it be?
You may say “you are still too young to think about that!” But! One of my best friends is sort of engaged already, and thinking of getting married at the beginning of next year. (She is the same age as me) So I don’t think it’s too early. In addition, it’s kinda fun to imagine my future wedding in advance. I’d like my future husband to be an intelligent and competent man. Also, he should be manly and romantic at the same time. Oh, he should know at least how to play baduk and respect my career. (Of course, I will respect his career as well!) Lastly, I want him to be a well-balanced man. (between love and ambition, work and family, humor and sincerity etc) Am I wishing too much? Well, you should understand that. I do not even have a boy friend yet. -_-; (which means I am staying far from the reality)
Well...let me find a good boy friend first!
(My boy friend should be....Hahaha!!! ^-^)
Your description about your future husband sounds interesting. Some days before I was speaking with Mikyung (1p) about boys, girls and such, and she told me that in the past professional players tended to marry with other professionals, but now looks like getting married with a non-pro is ok. That should be good for the couple; I mean, more things to discover from each other.
Good luck in the search! Despite usually it's not a search: one day you just stumble upon somebody and only see the good things of him/her.
Well...Isn't it easy to see couples who have the same occupation? I don't think pro or non-pro matters. It's just more likely to happen because pro players usually hang out with other pro players. Most of them neither attend school nor join social clubs, but play and study baduk in groups. According to my observation, there are certain pros and cons in pro-pro couples. They are able to understand one another better than anyone else from other background, especially after matches. That's definitely an advantage. Yet, there is no freshness in relationship. They have almost the same life pattern, knowledge and experiences. If you ask me, though, I don't want to date a guy who only knows and talks about baduk.
Well, concerning searching for a suitable husband candidate, there were few ones that introduced themselves during Your commentary of KGS insei league game on KGS 
By the way, I'd like tosincerely thank You for devoting some of your time to do that commetary.
To be more serious, as Julio said, You just stumble upon someone who You see as (almost) perfect, whose shortcomings You see as virtues.
It is like in baduk, some move seems to be perfect and You might consider it very strong, but just till someone shows You the answer that makes it the worst one. The problem is that we cannot fully understand those strong moves before we become much stronger, gaining much deeper understanding of the game.
The same way, it is not so easy to chose the right ONE if we do not fully understand life and relations between people. But, the problem is that, unlike in baduk, we often don't have enough time to gain fully understanidng of life and relations between people, so we just make a decision based on something that even psychology doesn't have insights in yet. Same as in baduk, we lose patience and just play the first move that comes to our mind - of course, it has to be in good corelation with our current knowledge and understanding of the game, it's not like to close one's eyes and put a stone on the board.
As You said that some moves in baduk are either logical or emotional (which, I'd say, neither is always good, because sometimes emotion - feeling for the right move - can be the best way to find best answer), the same is with finding the right ONE: often it is not good to be only logical or only emotional, but to use both.
Also, there's a good baduk proverb that You can apply:
- If in doubt, tenuki!
